Jigish Modi

“The worst loneliness is to not be comfortable with yourself.” ~ Mark Twain Toxic, haven’t we all heard that word before. For anything to turn toxic requires negligence, ignoring repeated patterns or denying them altogether. Toxicity in life takes time to build, you may recieve repeated hints in the form of behavioral patterns that are ignored, and this is when it reaches a level where it becomes toxic. When that toxicity creeps into one’s own relationship with oneself it becomes a cause for concern. Self care is important to stay sane and at peace with oneself, it’s the words we speak to ourselves that becomes a part of who we are. You are hard on yourself Every time you make a mistake or things something goes wrong, you blame yourself. “It is because of me that I didn’t get through the interview, or this relationship didn’t work. I am not good enough.” The negative self-talk, criticising yourself all the time makes it difficult to move forward on a path of self-realisatio...

Our survival instincts have gone through a major change over the years. The basic needs like food, clothing and shelter are more or less taken care of for many. So our protective energies are focused on defending the individual psychologically, rather than physiologically. This has brought about a big change in our lives, because now we are focused on protecting our ideologies, beliefs, and idiosyncrasies, rather than ourselves. Like a deer who runs for his life when he sees his predator, the moment we experience our fears, insecurities and behavioral patterns being threatened, we withdraw into a shell or close down. It is not due to any physical danger, but when we feel challenged, it leads to feelings of fear, insecurity, or emotional turbulence, and then there is a need to  protect our ego. How often do we find ourselves trying to protect or defend this part of us? When someone passes a comment on the way we look, our job, or something about our life, it brings up ce...

We live under this notion that we are free, either because we have the monetary power, freedom of choice, freedom to choose a job, freedom to travel wherever you wish etc. we tend to choose whatever reason we think fits into our frame of ideologies and the way we perceive the world. We follow certain spiritual gurus, read some philosophy, conform to a certain ideology, lead a mechanical life, so every form of philosophy is merely an escape from reality, is that actually freedom? We lead a dual life between the ideology of a system and the actuality of our daily existence. In trying to conform to the ideology we suppress ourselves. We want to be free from painful unhappy experiences. Is it freedom when we are free from pain, and free from anxiety? Or is freedom something entirely different? There is a tendency in us to put up with things, to get used to them, blame it on circumstances, or blaming others for any kind of disturbance in our own lives. We can be free from dogma,...

“Every father should remember that one day his son will follow his example instead of his advice.” JM “ The love for imperfect things ”  noticed that the emotional relationships with fathers seem to be more complicated when compared to mothers.

“Trust your hunches. They’re usually based on facts filed away just below the conscious level.”  “Trust your gut,” said a friend before you took up a new project, and your gut feeling was that it would work out, and eventually it did. Gut instinct is that instant hunch, the all-knowing feeling that tells you when something is right or wrong in your life. Whether it’s buying a new house or taking up a new job or getting into a relationship etc., if you are aware about it, there is always this tingling sensation in the deepest part of our gut that tells you whether it will work out or not. We know about the  brain-gut connection  (link), in which your mental state has a direct effect on the functioning of your actual gut. Given that your gut can interact directly with your brain, this fact may explain why it is known as the gut instinct. Following our instincts helps us in our lives to make better decisions, it might not be accurate all the time, especially if y...

“God is a circle whose center is everywhere and circumference nowhere.” ~ Voltaire In a world filled with fear mongers peddling fear, and war mongers peddling war. In a world where the majority of the people are asleep, caught under the spell of the state and the aggrandized, over-consuming hyper-reality that it pedals. In a world where what doesn’t really matter matters more than what really matters. It’s all too easy to fall between the cracks. It’s all too easy to remain on the sidelines. It’s all too easy to slip into a state of apathy and indifference. It’s all too easy to remain asleep. But there is a way to put it in perspective. There is a way to turn the tables on apathy. There is a way to transform our stagnate indifference into proactive imagination. There is a way to pull the wiggling worm of our animal-angst out of the hole it has dug itself into, and give it wings. There is a way to  embrace the shadow ; to help it shed its snake-like skin; to get it back ...

*Peace does not mean* only to be *in a place where* there is *no noise, trouble, or hard work. It also means to be in the midst* of all those *things and still be calm.*   🥓