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Anger.... Can be a great measurement of Emotional Intelligence



Anger, a very prominent and important EMOTION, which is not rightly looked at. I am not promoting Anger.. I don't have to... It is there.. Existing somewhere within all of us... The only difference is how each one of us can use this determines our Emotional Quotient (intelligence).
I was joking with a friend just recently that my levels have dropped down I guess and he laughed out loud after that I supported my statement with couple of episodes. I ended up expressing my displeasure in a group which worked on a project, also I tried convincing an old lady that my belief is appropriate, which I immediately realized but it was late... I had already made a fool of myself.
These things were still not as damaging as me irrationally expressing my annoyance towards someone I love so much and that lead me into this introspective mode that yes, I have indeed dropped down my standards instead of Uplifting myself... Not that I ever said or felt that anger is not suppose to exist but like how I would use it in enhancing my thought process, contradictory to that, I started using it to massage MY EGO....
Expecting environmental changes is way too average and I was surprisingly blaming others and defending my behavior... I was sliding downward and I am glad I realized this...
This made me understand that Emotional Intelligence is something which needs to be regularly monitored as different biological, environmental and psychological factors can cause shifts into the same. I am a super emotionally weak individual where I am more prone to get affected by such changes. This time, I also realized that I cannot afford to keep myself into an illusion that I am a Psychologist and am always going to be in an emotionally balanced state... I am an ordinary HUMAN first and this fact makes me alert to guage my possible ups and downs... I was in my rut to increase my spiritual quotient, an intelligence where no such personality and emotional traits should affect my mental peace but when my EQ drops, I go far away from increasing MY SQ. As, Spiritual Quotient=IQ +EQ
Nevertheless, here are few ways to figure out if our Emotional Quotient is getting better or going worse using Anger...
Whenever, we find ourselves sad, disappointed, resentful and low... These are synonyms of anger that is there within.
Understand that there are feelings, situations and outcomes which are beyond us and when we feel helpless too, there's an outburst of anger.
The way we express it in terms of getting irritated, using high pitch or sarcasm or being indifferent are all methods of expression of anger.
The real reason being unknown we tend to blame external factors to justify our behavior and that is the most common way we avoid guaging our imbalanced EQ levels...
This was probably what I learnt after having a disturbing experience and I believe this was the way my learning was destined...
Thus, rather than regretting for my unreasonable behavior I should focus on the solution....
Let's help ourselves....

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