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Why do we have children???


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I kept thinking all the while the real or actual reason why we want to have children???
Is it because that makes two people get another designation in life ...to be parents???
Or
Because we were born and we too want to copy or modify the parenting style that we were exposed to???
Or
Simply because after two people get married they should essentially have children to give them a feeling of setting up a family and fulfilling another societal norm???
Or
Because people are ignorant and at times its extremely natural and in an unaware state conception takes place???
Or
Last but not the least.... A futuristic plan to have someone support us when we reach our fag end...????
I got my answer and I was feeling extremely foolish to have got my kids onto this planet without being prepared to be a parent. They have given me immense pleasure and have bought all the amazing moments in my life but was I ever prepared to give them that fabulous parenting??? NO.... actually none of us are... We are not born as parents and many like me live in a different zone all their lives and this is unfair to those innocent lives who are dependent on us. Many of us either consider children as a life time project and have entered the rat race of bringing up a final successful model to feel the achievement of winning the ideal parent competition.
With mothers sacrificing their careers, hobbies, etc emotionally blackmail children to give their best output and feel that they have directed them towards a successful life seldom thinking the ill psychological effect that emotional blackmail has made on those tender minds.
Treating them like valuable commodities and over protecting them is also paralyzing their growth and self confidence substantially... But we intellectual parents have decided to be the best ones and to help us prove to be best we hardly peep into that raw mind whom we have contaminated with our so called, self proclaimed "rich cultural thoughts "where we teach them discrimination only. Discrimination is supposed to be happening as a moral or ethic at an individual level by teaching human values ,rather we teach them discrimination to value only particular set of humans and call them cultural and teach them to distrust people who don't fulfill certain criteria.
I am a parent and I totally know how scared we are for our children and their safety but we often forget that they have an entire different battle to fight here and spiritually each one is equipped to handle that just that we can aid them better by only and only ingraining universal truths and its power and self confidence .Better said than done... You all might feel but its a challenge to prepare our children to face their individual battles and the more do s and don'ts we teach we are restricting their growth in acceptance of other available treasures in this world.
We are victims of our personalities and we justify that by victimizing our children and this craziness like a relay effect will keep on passing through generations.

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