HORIZONTAL and VERTICAL relationship

Hello folks,
After a long gap, I am back here with my Postings...
Before introducing to the topic of HORIZONTAL and VERTICAL relationship, I ll take you people to twenty years back ...It was my accounts class where our professor was trying to help us set goals and motivate us to make a successful life.. He was asking all 50/60 students one question... What is your goal in life??? It was our last year of graduation and each one was talking about their ambitions ,I was clueless, I had not planned my life.. All I was thinking was to give an answer which would sound very different and very profound.... Having least understanding of the meaning to what I said.. When I was asked my reply in the class was.. I want "Self Satisfaction "...My sir was speechless and with raised eyebrows said what does that mean.. I said.. I want to feel satisfied with myself and he was a little not sure of me so went on to ask another student....
After so many years today, I could recall that and probably completely understand what I meant.... I was reading about happiness, a psychologist's theory ,in which he talks about all our problems being "interpersonal problems " and they usually arise for two main reasons.. One being, there's a tendency to see other people as our enemies and other being ,we are all stuck in vertical relationship..
Let's start with the first obstacle
When we see others as enemies, we somewhere, cannot completely trust people, when we feel that others are there to take undue advantage of ours or we would get cheated if we aren't alert... This attitude not literally but very subtly makes us see the world as our enemy and is one root cause of destruction of peace within and in relationships....
Second being, we all are victims of vertical relationship, which means very rarely we encounter others at our same level... We either feel superior or inferior to others while dealing with them and this is extremely harmful in any relationship which should or is suppose to give us happiness.. When we are either in superior or inferior position we either become submissive or dominant, we aren't at par.. And no relationship can succeed in hierarchical order for long.... The concept of horizontal relationship is when, we firmly believe in being EQUAL.... here we can quote examples from any scripture and philosophy of being happy... We can only have happy relationship when there's a feeling of equality.. The belief that " We are not same but EQUAL" is extremely important to create HORIZONTAL RELATIONSHIP... In such relationships, there's room for fearless discussion and acceptance of each others likes and dislikes... In vertical relationship, the fear of losing on relationships and ego issues can eventually ruin it completely.... Assertively communicated relationship is horizontal relationship where there's respect and love for both self and others and a room for change and consideration..... This is an important aspect I learnt and thus shared....
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