It is natural when we are a part of this society, we are interdependent and each of us at major and minor levels do have certain expectations from one another. Some of us might expect things only from certain people in their lives where as others might expect universally specific actions and behaviors. In nutshell, there's practically no one existing who is living without any expectations.
Spiritual coaches and mentors all have one simple remedy for all our problems and that is to start living without expecting anything from anyone... Such a soul will be a truly detached soul....
I have tried to eradicate with number of people with whom I did have ample or moderate expectations and only fulfill my societal duty that is pertaining to my roles in various relationships and it turned out that I was getting detached eventually and losing out on emotional bond too... I have no clue how good or bad that is but it surely left me pain-free to quite an extent. The side effect as I noticed was that I started becoming indifferent and that was not acceptable to those people with whom I was once closely attached to...
I could not help but make myself understand time and again that whether I inflict pain to myself by expecting something from people or I stay detached and get accused of being insensitive.. I TAKE THE FINAL RESPONSIBILITY. ..
In certain relationships, I want to give away the best of me and this essentially requires my complete emotional involvement and a huge risk of being either taken for granted or left unnoticed but I still cannot blame the others in that relationship for any disappointment faced by me. How much to give in a relationship is purely in our hands, we can measure as per expected returns or we can give less and gain more to feel better in bargaining emotions, I CHOOSE TO GIVE MY BEST AND SEE WHAT I GET... Yes, this is a huge emotional risk but I for once want to completely believe in UNIVERSAL LAW and see if my choice was right or not.... In any case, I will not want to hold anyone responsible as I TOTALLY TAKE THE CHARGE of my life... We are no fools to get into anything without our selfish interests, but if say GOD FORBID things don't turn out as we expected it is completely immatured to point fingers at others....
So, wake up to the reality and be it good or not good let's start to take up the responsibility of our lives as only after which we can turn to resolving our issues rather than complaining....
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