Jigish Modi

Well.. There are many but what I distinctly remember are these two extremely routine phrases which were used to descr ibe FEAR... a common FEAR, an emotion that each one of us has but we are either too masked to show it or we are escaping it in our own ways... One is from this movie. 'jab we met' when towards the end when this girl is getting married to her so called lost love but the truth that she knows within is that someone who has walked away once is definitely not the right choice to someone she knows who can go out of his way to make her happy... This situation between the practical YES vs INTUITIVE NO is similar to the fear of missing a train (here a chance or an opportunity) to go on a journey of your innermost life... The Anxiety expressed in this statement 'AISA LAG RAHA HAI Jaise KUCH GALAT HO RAHA Hai, JAISE KOI TRAIN CHOOT RAHI HAI' is so much relatable to the situation where one can see something long awaited is so close yet s...

Anger, a very prominent and important EMOTION, which is not rightly looked at. I am not promoting  Anger.. I don't have to... It is there.. Existing somewhere within all of us... The only difference is how each one of us can use this determines our Emotional Quotient (intelligence). I was joking with a friend just recently that my levels have dropped down I guess and he laughed out loud after that I supported my statement with couple of episodes. I ended up expressing my displeasure in a group which worked on a project, also I tried convincing an old lady that my belief is appropriate, which I immediately realized but it was late... I had already made a fool of myself. These things were still not as damaging as me irrationally expressing my annoyance towards someone I love so much and that lead me into this introspective mode that yes, I have indeed dropped down my standards instead of Uplifting myself... Not that I ever said or felt that anger is not suppose to ...

LOVE is supposed to be bliss but most of us would deny that after experiencing LOVE... That doesn't mean there is no BLI SS IN LOVE, it simply means that we haven't loved to reach that bliss.... These are the five sheaths of a human being... We all ultimately aspire to reach that blissful state and it's preparation starts from the outermost layer that makes us... That is to survive, keep fit physically and thus FOOD is what makes our initial layer and creates a path to progress spiritually...although yogic diet says that food should be such which can help us overall as in contribute also in enhanced thinking ...alongwith sustainability food should be such which can be easily digested as that way it can directly affect our next layer positively.. Energy layer, which can be termed as aura, positive energy, negative energy, etc and love for someone s body might give bodily pleasure, LOVE for someone with immense positive aura might add on that fa...

Intimately Indifferent... Is another term for Detached Love.... Seems difficult ...isn't it... Yes it is... Love essentially is a bond,  an invisible cord between people but in real sense, LOVE is not something that can either be defined or understood by ordinary people like us... We LOVE someone or something that pleases us, that makes us feel happy but have we observed we also like people who are not even known to us but either their looks, ideologies or something unknown attracts us towards them and that is also an invisible cord... These cords are subtle attachments and expressing that liking in words and actions are physical attachments... In my previous post, I mentioned about sheaths of human being, considering that, we humans are very physical in the first place and slowly it should take us to the level of that profoundness of loving without being attached.... Most of us get attached and get stuck at that emotional level where both physical and mental intimacy is a...

It's rarely the INTELLIGENCE QUOTIENT which creates issues in relationships ,most of the times it is EMOTION AL QUOTIENT as that is the most fluid element in our system. It is so much flowy that it seldom remains in one state for a long period. With people who carry a high EQ within too are usually controlling their outbursts not that they don't experience the emotional shifts... With people having low EQ ,they lack the control and the outburst is revealed. Whenever, there is any sort of difference created between people which is ABSOLUTELY NORMAL, but Distance created is HARMFUL. Especially,if they are fond of each other and if they can let differences create distance then it is huge gap between them to communicate their emotional states when needed. No two people, a mother and a child, a husband and a wife, two best friends, or lovers ,no two people can ever have same emotional state and this is the time when one or both at times are unaware and uninterested in even ...

We all have heard as to how important it is to follow our heart, passion and how that leads to success and happiness..  It is true, it cannot be denied but have we even bothered beyond our success???? Today, success has become a synonym for happiness but how many of us have reflected within to really understand if this is really true .... We need to be passionate about work or hobby or anything that can bring us pleasure to derive the best form of pleasure but at the end of the day it is ONLY SURROUNDING SELF... it is all about SELF PLEASURE.... It is only self contained.. And anything that is self contained has a never ending longing and greed... To the extent, it becomes SELFISH in nature... Thus, passion in its pure form is SELFISH. Compassion on the other hand helps us in empathizing with the other, compassion helps in balancing the pleasure we seek. If compassion is accompanied by passion, we are constantly aware of not putting others in any inconvenience for our pa...

It is natural when we are a part of this society, we are interdependent and each of us at major and minor levels do have certain expectations from one another. Some of us might expect things only from certain people in their lives where as others might expect universally specific actions and behaviors. In nutshell, there's practically no one existing who is living without any expectations. Spiritual coaches and mentors all have one simple remedy for all our problems and that is to start living without expecting anything from anyone... Such a soul will be a truly detached soul.... I have tried to eradicate with number of people with whom I did have ample or moderate expectations and only fulfill my societal duty that is pertaining to my roles in various relationships and it turned out that I was getting detached eventually and losing out on emotional bond too... I have no clue how good or bad that is but it surely left me pain-free to quite an extent. The side effect as I not...

How did this topic emerge today...? While discussing lord Krishna s marriages with my son, he had this question that when Krishna could marry so many women why wouldn't he marry Radha? To this I had this reply for him.. Mythology is a debatable topic but this is my perception .... Lord Krishna did not marry Radha to prove that Love and Marriage are two different things...love is a selfless emotion while marriage is an agreement or arrangement... Krishna acknowledged the divine and untainted love of Radha with His divine grace. The Radha Krishna love story is an instance of the zealous pursuit of spirituality apringing forth eternally from the individual self towards the universal self.Some limitation is imposed by the sense of 'duty' that husband and wife naturally acquire towards one another. This sense of duty is beautiful, but the highest type of love is even more beautiful. It is so profound that it requires no sense of duty – and flows absolutely spontaneously –...

Children constitute most part of our lives.. Isn't it??? They should... As they are here coz we got them here. Whet her it was planned or unplanned as an adult we need to accept that responsibility that we gave birth to them, either out of sheer physical pleasure or as a societal norm or pressure.... We either make a choice to not give birth in first place or we take up the responsibility. But responsibility also includes our aspirations for our children and today it is limitless.... It is fabulous to have such great aspirations for children but are we keeping a check on ourselves????? I come across parents who have been obsessed by their children and have focussed their complete energy into their upbringing... Which is commendable but have you done that for them or yourself????? We as adults are programmed by our parents and culture and environment in a particular fashion and our egos make us believe that WE ARE THE BEST ..... especially in country like ours all culture...

I kept thinking all the while the real or actual reason why we want to have children??? Is it because that makes two people get a nother designation in life ...to be parents??? Or Because we were born and we too want to copy or modify the parenting style that we were exposed to??? Or Simply because after two people get married they should essentially have children to give them a feeling of setting up a family and fulfilling another societal norm??? Or Because people are ignorant and at times its extremely natural and in an unaware state conception takes place??? Or Last but not the least.... A futuristic plan to have someone support us when we reach our fag end...???? I got my answer and I was feeling extremely foolish to have got my kids onto this planet without being prepared to be a parent. They have given me immense pleasure and have bought all the amazing moments in my life but was I ever prepared to give them that fabulous parenting??? NO.... actually none of us are.....

I put up my thoughts, my ideas and beliefs in my posts and I keep wondering if that is what my philosophy of life is??? Well, no.. We don't live our lives on any philosophy, we essentially name it as some philosophy either discovered or learnt but actually it is based on how we have felt. How we feel about ourselves to how we make others feel says a lot from the way we are with people.... We all can act, we all can pretend to be absolutely sweet, accomodating to helpful but we are most true to what we feel. Some of us might have not acknowledged this REAL feel but if we are constantly pulled by someone or something, it clearly means that it makes us FEEL good. I totally believe that we all have choices in life, but still if we are stuck into a situation, something within us what we FEEL is stopping us to go against anything. So... We need a constant check to understand how and what we feel coz that's what governs our complete behavior and attitude.

Karma, the way we all simply understand is the action of each individual while they exist... But it is more broader than that.. It is action, words and most important which we forget all the time.. INTENTIONS.... There are all types of people around us.. Some who are extremely vigilant about their actions and words.. They are considered well mannered and well behaved citizens and people idealize them... It is worth the appreciation as it involves tremendous self control and awareness but... My concerns usually are the intentions.. Coz those are hidden aspects of an individual... Its motivating to be liked and appreciated by others around and thus being watchful in words and actions happen swiftly and get embedded in us. The real challenge is the INTENTION part. If we could keep a recorder in our minds that can help us read our most subconscious thoughts for someone, for us, we will never come out of guilt ..is my challenge. Most of us feel and deceit our own selves with a false ...

Hello folks, After a long gap, I am back here with my Postings... Before introducing to the topic of HORIZONTAL and VERTICAL relationship, I ll take you people to twenty years back ...It was my accounts class where our professor was trying to help us set goals and motivate us to make a successful life.. He was asking all 50/60 students one question... What is your goal in life??? It was our last year of graduation and each one was talking about their ambitions ,I was clueless, I had not planned my life.. All I was thinking was to give an answer which would sound very different and very profound.... Having least understanding of the meaning to what I said.. When I was asked my reply in the class was.. I want "Self Satisfaction "...My sir was speechless and with raised eyebrows said what does that mean.. I said.. I want to feel satisfied with myself and he was a little not sure of me so went on to ask another student.... After so many years today, I could re...

This might not seem true for most of you all.. It's confusing, I agree.. Let me explain.. Generally we find peo ple in good jobs, good positions, well placed, highly qualified and intelligent who have anger issues.. People who haven't achieved much and show anger issues, we all have a reason to give, their incapability to make it big or desitny striken status which makes them angry towards the world.. But what about the former categories I mentioned.. Why should people doing materially and socially and professionally well in life have such anger issues? ?? We all are conditioned to only look at people from their outer space naturally, we cannot peep into everyone's inner spaces.. And thus, looking at that picture we find these achievers so much full of everything then what is missing in their lives which gives rise to such an inflated anger... The inner space,yes,that is where we are, most of us are imbalanced.. We aren't aware of our own needs, weaknesses and ...

Karma, the way we all simply understand is the action of each individual while they exist... But it is more broader than that.. I t is action, words and most important which we forget all the time.. INTENTIONS.... There are all types of people around us.. Some who are extremely vigilant about their actions and words.. They are considered well mannered and well behaved citizens and people idealize them... It is worth the appreciation as it involves tremendous self control and awareness but... My concerns usually are the intentions.. Coz those are hidden aspects of an individual... Its motivating to be liked and appreciated by others around and thus being watchful in words and actions happen swiftly and get embedded in us. The real challenge is the INTENTION part. If we could keep a recorder in our minds that can help us read our most subconscious thoughts for someone, for us, we will never come out of guilt ..is my challenge. Most of us feel and deceit our own selves with a fal...

I am specially put off with people who  stretch fights, arguments, grudges for too long.. Its nothing but their inbuilt weaknesses which either prevent them from confrontation or compromising with the said individuals. We  despise, hate and are even indifferent to people who  make our lives  toxic, it is probably the survival  mechanism but let's  understand that if we hold on to any such behavioral problems for life, we are dedicating our  most  beautiful  moments to hatred and dislike and we refrain ourselves from LOVE. There's  problem everywhere and with everyone  but if we keep holding on to prejudices we are only and only wasting this beautiful life. Anger and hatred, however deep or genuine it may seem, it still is not as eternal as love  ,thus competing anger with love is mere foolishness. Ego might prevent us to accept that, because ego is primarily supposed to keep us uptight but there will be meltdown happening w...

Forgiveness is the Art to release ourselves free from something that hurt us by someone in the past. Inplace of holding the grudges against them or to be revengeful makes us stuck at same place whereas Forgiveness gives us a chance to ignore and excuse  them ,so that we may move in our life looking forward with the same people around in our world. Take an opportunity and courage to forgive those who hurt your feelings anyday anyways. Forgive your parents if  they have hurt you. Forgive your Brothers, sisters, friends if at times they were not considerate to you. Forgive your partners,  colleagues ,Boss,children and all for their doings. The most important Forgive yourself for hurting others at different levels otherwise you will carry the feelings of guilt the whole life. Today , Set your mind free by Forgiveness.  Don't chain up your mind for full life in grudges or resentments.  Forgive and Forget because there is a lot to Live in our life but by moving f...